For a long, long time dating has been a tricky process. Once you get out of high school and college, meeting women was difficult at best. It seemed bar hopping was about the only option you had. Now days, with the mainstream use of the internet you can find your soul mate without even having to leave the house.
Online dating services are widely popular and a lot of couples meet through them and get married. Despite the success rate of these services, many guys give up and end up not meeting anybody. It is not that the service does not work, it is that you may not be doing everything you can.
The biggest reason guys fail at these online services is because they are not use to using them. This newness means it is easy to make mistakes, to prevent these mistakes and increase your chance for success there are several tips you should try out before throwing in the towel.
1. Be unique. This is one big flaw a lot of guys make, they try to appeal to everyone. All this does is make you come off as some boring guy that nobody really cares about. Instead of doing that, make your profile about you. Think about the kind of woman you want to be with and tailor your profile towards what that type of woman might be looking in a guy.
Do not lie or anything, since obviously they will find out if you are lying. But wording things in such a way as to attract their attention is never wrong. Just be honest about yourself and women who are interested in that type of man will be willing to give you a shot.
2. Be confident. Women are, for the most part, attracted to confident men. The key to these online dating services is to make yourself come off as a confident guy with a lot to offer. The way you do this is by being careful how you word things. Women do not want a needy, insecure guy so by starting with an opening line like "You probably wont respond.." or "I'm not sure you care.." will just turn them off.
Instead, use confidence, show that you are worth her time and that she can either talk to you or you will go find someone else. Do not sound like an arrogant jerk, but make sure she knows you have something to offer.
3. Stay positive. People can pick up on vibes, even through the internet. The way you word things can tell her volumes. When using online dating services you need to make sure you sound upbeat and positive. Even if you are depressed or feel like this is hopeless, never let her catch onto this.
Instead, fill your profile with positive lines. You have something to offer, everyone does, so put that out there. Do not let negativity drag you down or influence what you are putting into your profile. No matter how lonely or sad you may be, never ever say it out loud (or type it).
Friday, September 7, 2012
Dating Service For Women Are They For You
The image of a soldier standing valiantly to protect their home country is one that resonates with a lot of people. Of course, it's also true that most people will picture a man in the role of that soldier, but such thinking is simply behind the times in most countries. Even so, dating service women has a strong appeal to a lot of men, and for various reasons.
It wasn't all that long ago--in the bigger scope of things--that women in the military were more of a rarity. For that reason, more and more men are wondering about the ins and outs of dating service women. Here are some things to keep in mind if you would like to be romantically involved with a woman in uniform.
Going out with an enlisted woman comes with some challenges that aren't a problem when dating civilian women. Heck, they're not even thought of as "civilian women" by most people. Does that mean you shouldn't go out with a woman who is in the military? Not at all. While there may some differences, it's fairly easy to work around them when you're aware of them.
The main thing you should know is that active military personnel can be called up to serve anywhere around the world at a moment's notice. It may not be a pleasant thought, but as long as you know it's a real possibility, it will easier to deal with should it happen. If it does happen, then you need to be supportive of them. Remember, they will be dealing with a lot of things at the same time, so anything you can do to make that easier will be appreciated.
Even if she is never called up to serve oversees, she will probably be moved to a different military base every few years. If you want to be dating service women, then you need to keep that in mind. How serious of a relationship do you want? Will you be willing to move around with her? Will she want you to? What about having a long distance relationship?
Asking questions ahead of time is a good idea. If you plan on it being a casual relationship, that's fine, as long as both of you are aware of that. But if it's getting serious, then you should talk about the different things that could happen, and have a plan of action in place if any of them should happen.
Dating service women isn't entirely different from dating any other women, though. While the military is often associated with being tough, and masculine; most military women like to feel feminine. You can do a lot to help them feel that way if you are going out with them. Romance is the key. Take them out dancing, have a nice romantic dinner or buy them flowers every now and then. Anything you can do to make them feel special will be appreciated. Keeping all of these things in mind will you to have a much better time when you're seeing each other.
It wasn't all that long ago--in the bigger scope of things--that women in the military were more of a rarity. For that reason, more and more men are wondering about the ins and outs of dating service women. Here are some things to keep in mind if you would like to be romantically involved with a woman in uniform.
Going out with an enlisted woman comes with some challenges that aren't a problem when dating civilian women. Heck, they're not even thought of as "civilian women" by most people. Does that mean you shouldn't go out with a woman who is in the military? Not at all. While there may some differences, it's fairly easy to work around them when you're aware of them.
The main thing you should know is that active military personnel can be called up to serve anywhere around the world at a moment's notice. It may not be a pleasant thought, but as long as you know it's a real possibility, it will easier to deal with should it happen. If it does happen, then you need to be supportive of them. Remember, they will be dealing with a lot of things at the same time, so anything you can do to make that easier will be appreciated.
Even if she is never called up to serve oversees, she will probably be moved to a different military base every few years. If you want to be dating service women, then you need to keep that in mind. How serious of a relationship do you want? Will you be willing to move around with her? Will she want you to? What about having a long distance relationship?
Asking questions ahead of time is a good idea. If you plan on it being a casual relationship, that's fine, as long as both of you are aware of that. But if it's getting serious, then you should talk about the different things that could happen, and have a plan of action in place if any of them should happen.
Dating service women isn't entirely different from dating any other women, though. While the military is often associated with being tough, and masculine; most military women like to feel feminine. You can do a lot to help them feel that way if you are going out with them. Romance is the key. Take them out dancing, have a nice romantic dinner or buy them flowers every now and then. Anything you can do to make them feel special will be appreciated. Keeping all of these things in mind will you to have a much better time when you're seeing each other.
Dating Relationship-Be True To Your Self For A Healthy Relationship
Most of us know that sometimes entering into a dating relationship can be equivalent to walking through a mine field. We enter into the relationship with high hopes and expectations. Sometimes those high hopes are realized, sometimes they aren't.
If you want to learn some simple tips to increase your chances of making any dating relationship you are a part of much more successful and happy, keep reading. I have compiled some simple information that may be able to help you out.
Now, I'm not claiming that any of this is new stuff, most of it is just common sense. But even with common sense issues you sometimes need a little reminder or you may just overlook a few points.
So, here we go:
1. The first thing I always tell people who aren't currently in a relationship but want to be is: work on you first. I'm not trying to imply that anyone is a huge mess but we all have varying degrees of issues and baggage.
Trying to identify and get rid of those issues and baggage is best undertaken before you meet someone rather than during or after the relationship. For one reason, the less baggage and issues you have and the more "whole" person you are will dictate what type of people you meet. So taking care of your own business first will make it much more likely that you will meet someone who is worthwhile.
For example, let's say that you have a lot of lingering hurt and trust issues because someone in your past cheated on you. If you just try to push these issues down without really facing them and getting over them, they will continue to haunt you.
Whether you realize it or not, you will attract other people who have similar issues. You will likely attract people who will do exactly what you expect them to do: cheat on you.
Fix yourself first.
2. Do not underestimate the importance of a high level of compatibility. I'm not talking about the two of you agreeing on everything but rather the two of you having similar outlooks on the important things such as honesty, fidelity, respect, etc.
If you think honesty is one of the most important characteristics a person can have, why would you even consider getting involved with someone who doesn't have a problem with "embellishing"? You are just setting yourself up for one disappointment after another.
So, when I say find someone you are compatible with, it's not to say that the two of you shouldn't have different taste in movies or music (though having a little overlap in likes will make social activities easier to plan out) I'm talking about having similar outlooks on the big things.
So, if you want a happy and successful dating relationship, take time to work on yourself an find someone who has similar outlooks on the big things. Incompatiblity can make your whole relationship one stress filled misunderstanding after another. Who needs that?
If you want to learn some simple tips to increase your chances of making any dating relationship you are a part of much more successful and happy, keep reading. I have compiled some simple information that may be able to help you out.
Now, I'm not claiming that any of this is new stuff, most of it is just common sense. But even with common sense issues you sometimes need a little reminder or you may just overlook a few points.
So, here we go:
1. The first thing I always tell people who aren't currently in a relationship but want to be is: work on you first. I'm not trying to imply that anyone is a huge mess but we all have varying degrees of issues and baggage.
Trying to identify and get rid of those issues and baggage is best undertaken before you meet someone rather than during or after the relationship. For one reason, the less baggage and issues you have and the more "whole" person you are will dictate what type of people you meet. So taking care of your own business first will make it much more likely that you will meet someone who is worthwhile.
For example, let's say that you have a lot of lingering hurt and trust issues because someone in your past cheated on you. If you just try to push these issues down without really facing them and getting over them, they will continue to haunt you.
Whether you realize it or not, you will attract other people who have similar issues. You will likely attract people who will do exactly what you expect them to do: cheat on you.
Fix yourself first.
2. Do not underestimate the importance of a high level of compatibility. I'm not talking about the two of you agreeing on everything but rather the two of you having similar outlooks on the important things such as honesty, fidelity, respect, etc.
If you think honesty is one of the most important characteristics a person can have, why would you even consider getting involved with someone who doesn't have a problem with "embellishing"? You are just setting yourself up for one disappointment after another.
So, when I say find someone you are compatible with, it's not to say that the two of you shouldn't have different taste in movies or music (though having a little overlap in likes will make social activities easier to plan out) I'm talking about having similar outlooks on the big things.
So, if you want a happy and successful dating relationship, take time to work on yourself an find someone who has similar outlooks on the big things. Incompatiblity can make your whole relationship one stress filled misunderstanding after another. Who needs that?
Dating For Fun-May Mean One Thing To You
Even if you are only dating for fun and aren't interested in something more serious, you still will have more chance (and probably more fun) if you have some "ground rules" set up first.
I don't mean that you have to do a big list of rules or anything like that, I just mean do what you can to ensure that you and your partner know what you each expect and want from each other and the relationship.
The term "dating for fun" may mean one thing to one person and something quite different to the other. To make things easier for both of you and to reduce the risk of hurt, strife and misunderstandings, just talk about what you expect in a relationship.
Here are some things that I mean, some things that you should probably decide for yourself what you want or don't want, and then talk that over with whoever you date so you are both on the same page:
1. Fidelity. This is huge. Many people who are just dating in a casual relationship may also think that means that they don't have to be faithful. They may think that they are still basically a free agent and can do whatever they want to do.
Spelling out your expectations right from the very start, can be a little uncomfortable but it can also save a lot of issues down the road. After all, if you are just looking for fun, you want to have fun.
You sure don't want to have to deal with a lot of complaining and fighting because you thought you could date other people but your dating partner thought that you shouldn't.
2. If you both agree that you don't have to be exclusive, are you going to share your exploits with each other or will you keep it to yourself? Are you sure that neither of you will feel jealousy? And one other thing, both genders are very capable of feeling jealousy no matter what they say.
At the end of the day, and at the risk of sounding sexist, sometimes men can sometimes have two different standards. They may think it's perfectly ok for them to date multiple people but they will often think poorly of any woman who dates a lot of men.
If that describes you, you really should take some time to evaluate the type of person you are. If you are going to judge someone for doing the exact same thing you are doing, that doesn't speak that highly for the type of person you are. Don't tell someone that you don't care if they date others and then turn around and have a problem with it, that's not fair.
So, dating for fun can be... well, fun. But, unless you are honest and open (with your partners as well as with yourself) about what you want, don't want and what you expect, you will most likely have less fun and more stress. It's extremely important for both of you to be on the same page about the specifics of your relationship.
I don't mean that you have to do a big list of rules or anything like that, I just mean do what you can to ensure that you and your partner know what you each expect and want from each other and the relationship.
The term "dating for fun" may mean one thing to one person and something quite different to the other. To make things easier for both of you and to reduce the risk of hurt, strife and misunderstandings, just talk about what you expect in a relationship.
Here are some things that I mean, some things that you should probably decide for yourself what you want or don't want, and then talk that over with whoever you date so you are both on the same page:
1. Fidelity. This is huge. Many people who are just dating in a casual relationship may also think that means that they don't have to be faithful. They may think that they are still basically a free agent and can do whatever they want to do.
Spelling out your expectations right from the very start, can be a little uncomfortable but it can also save a lot of issues down the road. After all, if you are just looking for fun, you want to have fun.
You sure don't want to have to deal with a lot of complaining and fighting because you thought you could date other people but your dating partner thought that you shouldn't.
2. If you both agree that you don't have to be exclusive, are you going to share your exploits with each other or will you keep it to yourself? Are you sure that neither of you will feel jealousy? And one other thing, both genders are very capable of feeling jealousy no matter what they say.
At the end of the day, and at the risk of sounding sexist, sometimes men can sometimes have two different standards. They may think it's perfectly ok for them to date multiple people but they will often think poorly of any woman who dates a lot of men.
If that describes you, you really should take some time to evaluate the type of person you are. If you are going to judge someone for doing the exact same thing you are doing, that doesn't speak that highly for the type of person you are. Don't tell someone that you don't care if they date others and then turn around and have a problem with it, that's not fair.
So, dating for fun can be... well, fun. But, unless you are honest and open (with your partners as well as with yourself) about what you want, don't want and what you expect, you will most likely have less fun and more stress. It's extremely important for both of you to be on the same page about the specifics of your relationship.
Dating Tips For Men- Communication
In today's world it can be really difficult for men in the dating scene. We guys are raised with the notion that showing excess emotion is a weakness, and that as men we must be strong and composed. This is all well and dandy, but it can make properly expressing ourselves difficult.
The best dating advice out there is that you need to properly communicate. This is why we have trouble with dating though, we have trouble properly communicating. So to help with that are some basic tips you should try to follow to make your dating experience a little better.
1. Look good. First impressions mean a lot, and if you make a bad one it can haunt you for a long time, or maybe even cut your relationship down before it even gets off the ground. So you need to make sure to properly groom yourself and look as presentable as can be. Making a good first impression makes the road to forming a relationship a whole lot easier.
2. Romance. Romance is all well and good, and a lot of women like it. You just have to remember not to go overboard. You are not lovers, you are not even friends yet, so do not think you can act like you are. Instead, take her to places where you can talk and get to know one another. The first step in the road to any good relationship is making friends first. After all, your girlfriend or wife should also be your friend.
3. Conversational skills. Pretty much all dating advice out there will tell you that communication is imperative. Without that, how is anyone suppose to know what you think or how you feel? Having bad conversation skills is nothing to be ashamed of, it is merely something you need to overcome. The key to a conversation is that it is a give and take. You need to talk, but you also need to listen and give them a chance to talk. If only one person is doing all the talking, that is not a conversation, it's a monologue.
4. Be a gentleman. This is probably the most important tip. In today's society most forms of chivalry are long dead, and women do not expect or want it in a lot of forms. It can often be viewed as offensive and demeaning. But do not let that trick you into thinking that you should act any less of a man. As a man you need to treat them with respect and dignity, and always be polite. Even if you find yourself not attracted to the woman, you must treat her to a wonderful evening.
Going on dates and finding love is difficult for everyone, men and women alike. But with these basic tips it can make your search a lot easier. Just remember that you will not find your soul mate right off the bat, and that you need to keep looking until you can find someone who can truly make you happy.
The best dating advice out there is that you need to properly communicate. This is why we have trouble with dating though, we have trouble properly communicating. So to help with that are some basic tips you should try to follow to make your dating experience a little better.
1. Look good. First impressions mean a lot, and if you make a bad one it can haunt you for a long time, or maybe even cut your relationship down before it even gets off the ground. So you need to make sure to properly groom yourself and look as presentable as can be. Making a good first impression makes the road to forming a relationship a whole lot easier.
2. Romance. Romance is all well and good, and a lot of women like it. You just have to remember not to go overboard. You are not lovers, you are not even friends yet, so do not think you can act like you are. Instead, take her to places where you can talk and get to know one another. The first step in the road to any good relationship is making friends first. After all, your girlfriend or wife should also be your friend.
3. Conversational skills. Pretty much all dating advice out there will tell you that communication is imperative. Without that, how is anyone suppose to know what you think or how you feel? Having bad conversation skills is nothing to be ashamed of, it is merely something you need to overcome. The key to a conversation is that it is a give and take. You need to talk, but you also need to listen and give them a chance to talk. If only one person is doing all the talking, that is not a conversation, it's a monologue.
4. Be a gentleman. This is probably the most important tip. In today's society most forms of chivalry are long dead, and women do not expect or want it in a lot of forms. It can often be viewed as offensive and demeaning. But do not let that trick you into thinking that you should act any less of a man. As a man you need to treat them with respect and dignity, and always be polite. Even if you find yourself not attracted to the woman, you must treat her to a wonderful evening.
Going on dates and finding love is difficult for everyone, men and women alike. But with these basic tips it can make your search a lot easier. Just remember that you will not find your soul mate right off the bat, and that you need to keep looking until you can find someone who can truly make you happy.
Dating Beautiful Women
No doubt about it, dating is challenging. You have to get up the nerve to ask a woman out, then you have to figure out where to have the date, you have to be on your best behavior (what will you say and do?), and do it all in a way that comes across as confident and natural (no matter how you may be feeling on the inside). A lot of guys have an even harder time when it comes to dating beautiful women. But, as you will see, it doesn't have to be difficult.
Rule #1 is that you should never treat any woman as an object, and that includes pretty women. In other words, while you may be attracted to their physical appearance, you shouldn't think of them as a trophy or status symbol. Granted, other people will notice her beauty, and may look at you differently because of it, but that should never be your reason for wanting to go out with her.
A lot of beautiful women actually run into an interesting problem. Conventional wisdom says that pretty women shouldn't have any problem finding men that want to go out with them. But the reality is that a lot of them find men are afraid to approach them because of their beauty--the very thing that's suppose to get men flocking to them.
Understanding this can help you when dating beautiful women. They are, first and foremost, people too. Just be yourself and try not to treat her as though she is someone that is out of your league. Why? Because that's the other problem pretty women run into. Men overacting and laying the charm on extra heavy, all in the hopes that the woman will enjoy the extra attention. But a lot of the time pretty woman get tired of the phoniness, and ache to find a guy who will just be himself around her.
Now, let's make one thing perfectly clear. Treating them normal and being yourself doesn't mean you should go out of your way to be rude or to ignore her. You would be surprised at how many so-called "relationship experts" will tell you to be a jerk towards beautiful women. Sorry, but that just doesn't cut it! They are people; simple. Just don't play games and treat her as you want her to treat you.
Keep in mind that attractive women often feel that they are being hit on more than other women. So, when it comes to dating beautiful women, forget all of the clever pick up lines. Trust me, they have heard them before. Besides, the very fact that you're using a line shows her that you're trying too hard and that you're just like every other guy who has used a line on her.
Finally, be confident when dating beautiful women. Too many men feel like they're not worthy, but if she has agreed to a date or two, then it proves that she thinks you are indeed worthy, and that's what really counts.
Rule #1 is that you should never treat any woman as an object, and that includes pretty women. In other words, while you may be attracted to their physical appearance, you shouldn't think of them as a trophy or status symbol. Granted, other people will notice her beauty, and may look at you differently because of it, but that should never be your reason for wanting to go out with her.
A lot of beautiful women actually run into an interesting problem. Conventional wisdom says that pretty women shouldn't have any problem finding men that want to go out with them. But the reality is that a lot of them find men are afraid to approach them because of their beauty--the very thing that's suppose to get men flocking to them.
Understanding this can help you when dating beautiful women. They are, first and foremost, people too. Just be yourself and try not to treat her as though she is someone that is out of your league. Why? Because that's the other problem pretty women run into. Men overacting and laying the charm on extra heavy, all in the hopes that the woman will enjoy the extra attention. But a lot of the time pretty woman get tired of the phoniness, and ache to find a guy who will just be himself around her.
Now, let's make one thing perfectly clear. Treating them normal and being yourself doesn't mean you should go out of your way to be rude or to ignore her. You would be surprised at how many so-called "relationship experts" will tell you to be a jerk towards beautiful women. Sorry, but that just doesn't cut it! They are people; simple. Just don't play games and treat her as you want her to treat you.
Keep in mind that attractive women often feel that they are being hit on more than other women. So, when it comes to dating beautiful women, forget all of the clever pick up lines. Trust me, they have heard them before. Besides, the very fact that you're using a line shows her that you're trying too hard and that you're just like every other guy who has used a line on her.
Finally, be confident when dating beautiful women. Too many men feel like they're not worthy, but if she has agreed to a date or two, then it proves that she thinks you are indeed worthy, and that's what really counts.
Should You Mend A Relationship
Having a relationship can be a challenge. As much joy as it brings us, it can also bring us a lot of hardships. For a lot of people the good far outweighs the bad, but there are still many relationships out there that suffer from a lot of troubles that can keep them weighted down.
Trying to mend a relationship is also quite difficult and in fact the very act of trying to fix it often times seals it's fate. The reason for this is simply because people do not know what exactly they should do. They have the drive, just not the knowledge. If you do not want girlfriend or boyfriend ex there are some tips to help you out.
1. Positivity. Remaining positive is important when trying to keep any relationship afloat. People can pick up on the vibes you put off, if you put out negative vibes it will make them feel negative around you, and generally just will not do you any good. Keeping positive not only makes yourself feel better, but can rub off on those around you as well.
2. Do not rush. Eagerness can lead to impatience, which is where a lot of couples fail. They are so eager to keep their relationship intact that they actually end up making things worse. Rome was not built in a day and repairing your relationship will not happen overnight either. Take it nice and slow so you do not make mistakes.
3. Communication. The single most important aspect of any relationship is proper communication. If you do not your girlfriend or boyfriend ex then you need to be able to listen to their problems so you can fix them before they cause damage.
However you also need to voice your own, remaining silent does not help anybody. Tell your partner whatever problems you have so that they as well do not become a big issue down the line.
4. Be affectionate. When in a slump, most couples stop being as intimate as they once were. All this does is further drive a wedge between the two of you. You should try to keep the intimacy level the same regardless of the problems you have. Simple gestures such as kisses and hugs can do a lot. Just show your partner that, despite whatever problems you are having you still love them.
5. Look for help. While these tips can do a lot to help you out, sometimes it is simply not enough. If you do not want your girlfriend or boyfriend ex then you need to do whatever you can to keep your relationship above water. If all else fails then you should seek out professional help in the form of a marriage counselor.
Marriage counselors are trained to help you through your troubles and help the two of you work through your problems. Sometimes simply having an objective third party can work wonders. Marriage counselors have saved countless relationships. Do not let fear or hesitation keep you from seeking the help you need. If your relationship is important then you need to do whatever it takes to make it work.
Trying to mend a relationship is also quite difficult and in fact the very act of trying to fix it often times seals it's fate. The reason for this is simply because people do not know what exactly they should do. They have the drive, just not the knowledge. If you do not want girlfriend or boyfriend ex there are some tips to help you out.
1. Positivity. Remaining positive is important when trying to keep any relationship afloat. People can pick up on the vibes you put off, if you put out negative vibes it will make them feel negative around you, and generally just will not do you any good. Keeping positive not only makes yourself feel better, but can rub off on those around you as well.
2. Do not rush. Eagerness can lead to impatience, which is where a lot of couples fail. They are so eager to keep their relationship intact that they actually end up making things worse. Rome was not built in a day and repairing your relationship will not happen overnight either. Take it nice and slow so you do not make mistakes.
3. Communication. The single most important aspect of any relationship is proper communication. If you do not your girlfriend or boyfriend ex then you need to be able to listen to their problems so you can fix them before they cause damage.
However you also need to voice your own, remaining silent does not help anybody. Tell your partner whatever problems you have so that they as well do not become a big issue down the line.
4. Be affectionate. When in a slump, most couples stop being as intimate as they once were. All this does is further drive a wedge between the two of you. You should try to keep the intimacy level the same regardless of the problems you have. Simple gestures such as kisses and hugs can do a lot. Just show your partner that, despite whatever problems you are having you still love them.
5. Look for help. While these tips can do a lot to help you out, sometimes it is simply not enough. If you do not want your girlfriend or boyfriend ex then you need to do whatever you can to keep your relationship above water. If all else fails then you should seek out professional help in the form of a marriage counselor.
Marriage counselors are trained to help you through your troubles and help the two of you work through your problems. Sometimes simply having an objective third party can work wonders. Marriage counselors have saved countless relationships. Do not let fear or hesitation keep you from seeking the help you need. If your relationship is important then you need to do whatever it takes to make it work.
Thursday, September 6, 2012
Add Romance-Doesn't Always Mean Roses and Candles
When most of us think of the word romance, we think of love, making love and having an incredible connection with another person. When most of us wonder how we can add romance to our relationship, we often think of sexy nights filled with lingerie, soft music and wine. But is that it? Not that there is anything wrong with this version, but is that the only option we have? Personally, I don't think so.
I'm not sure if I could be considered the most romantic person around. I think I am, but who knows? To me, romance is about a deep connection with someone else. A connection that goes beyond just the lingerie and wine.
I think that anytime two people who love each other are able to spend time together doing activities that they both enjoy, that can be a form of romance. True, it isn't necessarily the type of romance that gets written about but that doesn't mean it can't be romantic for the couple.
If you think about it, the good memories that we hold throughout our lifetime involve two major themes: doing something we enjoy and/ or being with someone we love. When you combine the something you enjoy with the someone you love, I think that is perfect and I think that can be an (often overlooked) way to add romance to any relationship.
Of course, the important distinction here is that is has to be something you both enjoy. It's not really romantic if you want to go hunting and your partner hates to hunt. Even if your partner agrees to go, the romance will be lost on her.
So, pick these "non traditional" romantic gestures carefully. Don't delude yourself into believing that your partner enjoys a certain activity when you know darn well, even if you don't want to admit it to yourself, that they don't.
Another aspect of something that is romantic, again in my opinion, is something out of the ordinary. Years ago I knew a couple (to be honest they were a little weird) who liked to brag that they had sex every single night.
As expected, the husband bragged about it but when I asked his wife if she really enjoyed it that much she said no, it had become more of a habit and wasn't really anything hot and exciting. She said it became a little like brushing her teeth every night before bed... it became routine.
So, whatever romantic gesture(s) you like to do remember that if anything is done too often it becomes routine. Something that is done often will quickly lose it's intensity and can become if not boring than at least not nearly as exciting.
So, if you want to add romance to your relationship, don't restrict yourself to the traditional things (not that there is anything wrong with those, but you want to keep things interesting too). Think about you and your partner and the things you both love to do. Then set up a time when you can do those things together. That can be enormously romantic.
I'm not sure if I could be considered the most romantic person around. I think I am, but who knows? To me, romance is about a deep connection with someone else. A connection that goes beyond just the lingerie and wine.
I think that anytime two people who love each other are able to spend time together doing activities that they both enjoy, that can be a form of romance. True, it isn't necessarily the type of romance that gets written about but that doesn't mean it can't be romantic for the couple.
If you think about it, the good memories that we hold throughout our lifetime involve two major themes: doing something we enjoy and/ or being with someone we love. When you combine the something you enjoy with the someone you love, I think that is perfect and I think that can be an (often overlooked) way to add romance to any relationship.
Of course, the important distinction here is that is has to be something you both enjoy. It's not really romantic if you want to go hunting and your partner hates to hunt. Even if your partner agrees to go, the romance will be lost on her.
So, pick these "non traditional" romantic gestures carefully. Don't delude yourself into believing that your partner enjoys a certain activity when you know darn well, even if you don't want to admit it to yourself, that they don't.
Another aspect of something that is romantic, again in my opinion, is something out of the ordinary. Years ago I knew a couple (to be honest they were a little weird) who liked to brag that they had sex every single night.
As expected, the husband bragged about it but when I asked his wife if she really enjoyed it that much she said no, it had become more of a habit and wasn't really anything hot and exciting. She said it became a little like brushing her teeth every night before bed... it became routine.
So, whatever romantic gesture(s) you like to do remember that if anything is done too often it becomes routine. Something that is done often will quickly lose it's intensity and can become if not boring than at least not nearly as exciting.
So, if you want to add romance to your relationship, don't restrict yourself to the traditional things (not that there is anything wrong with those, but you want to keep things interesting too). Think about you and your partner and the things you both love to do. Then set up a time when you can do those things together. That can be enormously romantic.
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