The new dating game, how to connect easily and quickly

When you are first meeting someone the first thing that will increase your odds with getting to start a conversation is actually starting a conversation, while getting into a conversation with people may be easy the real task that you would see yourself facing quickly is that of connecting to the person that you see in front of you. You want to talk to the person not at the person, which in a way is what describes the technique of rapport, which is actualy relating to a person through the actions that you take to show the person that you are alike in some way to that person. The idea of using a technique is in someway using your skill to try to manipulate someone into thinking like you, using rapport is the exact opposite, it is using the way someone thinks in order to seem to that person that you are thinking alike to them. The main idea of rapport using is to seem alike to a person in a way that is going to create a connection that exists between the two of you.
By seeking to understand a person that is in front of you that you have just approached of course you are going to flounder around until you actually get it, using rapport is the only way to make this process as fast possible to get to the part were you are talking to this person on a deep level that is going to attract the person to you. You might have heard that by mimicking someone's body language you send a subtle cue to the person that you are communicating with that you are enjoying the conversation that you are having, this is true in that when you repeat what someone says it does have the effect of you understanding what is being said. What you are going to do with the process of gaining rapport with someone is learn the way that someone relates as it physically emanates from the body as it will generate to possible choices from the person and then use the choices that are made to question the person on the choice. Say if you are listening to a girl then she says that she is someone that enjoys family, you respond simply, you enjoy family.
 When you use this technique it might be apparently obvious that by mimicking the other person that using the technique too much will only aggravate the person that you are talking to, this is going to prove to be about the only obstacle that you face while using this technique. The first reason that you may come off as too wierd while using this technique is that because if you say the same thing too many times it is going to sound like you are a parrot that only says what it is told and this is the exact opposite of how to attract someone with your great communication skills. The second reason is that because people just are not used to hearing their own thoughts given back to them and it shocks people that have never heard anybody listen before. This is the only draws to using the rapport technique.
Using rapport will be the quickest way that you can make a connection with someone right out of the air because you do not need to come up with anything or think about anything you just repeat what you are hearing as you hear it and of course after the person is done talking. If you use the technique right it will be super easy to persuade someone to do something for you really quickly. The time that it takes to use this technique is about two minutes, since you can be talking to someone and all it takes is until you hear the person say something that you can repeat. The only drawback is if you use the technique way too much which is difficult because people actually love hearing their own words.
By putting yourself in front of someone you are showing that you are in fact worthy of the effort it takes to maintain a conversation with you for at least as long as it might take to blow you off. Although by displaying a certain effort to maintain eye contact the first interaction that you have might actually get past the introduction allowing you to say your name and finally posit something of value into the conversation that might make it stick more than just simply walking up to someone and staring would. The idea behind this technique is that it is not a technique it is a principle that guides your life in a way that emanates from your body in a way that go in unnoticed with a power that will secretly be building up in the conversation, this power is known as value. By going into an interaction in a way that shows that you have good values you also show that you are a friendly person, remember when you go in front of someone you want to show the person that you can talk in a friendly way that is normal. The reason that normal people can talk to others and the person actually like them is because the power that is generated by the value that is going on behind the conversation.
What you might think is that you are now aware of this principle that is called value, and you now have questions as to how to create it. Your question might sound like what does it actually look like when you are creating value, to what do I say that creates value, the answer to the first question is that it looks unnoticeable, the answer to the second question is that you barely do anything. That might at first sound like it has to be wrong and it can be explained, by thinking about having to do something you are taking your focus off of the interaction then putting it onto something that is external as well as not relevant to the situation so therefore you are actually putting your effort into a false situation that does not exist. The reason that you learn to make your value strong is because it is internally guided as it relates to the situation that is actually happening and not as to how it might happen or how you want it to happen, using value is the true way to create attraction that is in the moment and according to the relevant situation.
When you are doing things that are of high value you are showing that you are someone who is used to being liked because you do not have to take control over a situation you just actually enjoy what is happening and that is alright. When you fret over small things it shows that you have lower value because you let things get to you, by actually slowing down in a conversation you start to begin understanding someone in a way that you would not have if you were fretting over the way that your hair looked or thinking about the way you sound or how your shirt looks. The whole idea about being of value means that you are someone that is used to being liked by people because this frame sets the belief that you do not need to prove yourself in a situation you are are here to enjoy yourself and that is what is going to happen, regardless of who is around. Using your value will start to make you more attractive because you start thinking about the interaction that is before you instead of placing the energy on outer things.
 Using value can be done in many ways, it starts with relaxing in a conversation to slow down which says I am totally cool. Another technique that you can do to make someone see your value is to just by cutting someone off in mid conversation, this might at first seem rude, only it is just an extension of your valuable attitude, remember you are used to being liked by people so being hated by some is also part of the description of getting good at game. Being good at everything is not a value that you can actually show off because it is a stem of neediness meaning that you need to show off to someone to make yourself look better, remember relax in a conversation while letting other people speak from time to time as it is deemed necessary, just remember that by being a valuable person you take on the burden of a conversation. Taking on the burden of a conversation is something that you will most likely do plenty of times in the beginning because people are more likely to just sit and listen to you talk than to speak up.
 We are now onto the idea of letting other people enjoy in your good energy, with this idea we see some complications that might arise if you are too overly self indulged with yourself. First we see that as someone that wants to approach a girl and simply start chatting making a little connection showing a little bit of yourself in a way that is attractive as well as high value, you are showing also that you just have been thinking about yourself and you actually just have been giving yourself these positive emotions. This is possibly where things can actually turn for a bad case since most people follow the current dating advice that says stuff like put her in her place by showing that you can knock her off her pedestal, this is just wrong you can not knock a girl off of something that she is not on anyways. The fact remains that most girls regardless of how beauty has blessed her in the multitude of its grace, she will outright believe that she is ugly, adding to the voice that says she is worthless is not at all going to change the way she sees you, it will only link you to her feeling ugly, so remember she is not on a pedestal so think in terms of how you can make her day more filled with emotions that make her feel positive about herself.
By showing a girl that you can add to her in ways that are going to generally make her feel good you are showing that you are full of generosity, this is going to be the way that you think about girls from now on. Understanding that she is not on a pedestal is the first step to truly opening yourself up to a woman in a way that she can feel good around you, by actually giving her a compliment about her dress you start to make it apparent that you are not a malicious person that would leave her homeless or without at least a temporary shelter to live in, it is the small things like giving her a 3 dollar sandwich when you are eating lunch in just a way that says I am not trying to impress you I just noticed that you as well as all people must need some form of this life sustaining element, it is not really rocket science, you just give her something and that is the basic premise of being generous. Were the operational interest in your favor comes in hand is in what you decide to give her the amount that you decide to give and the frequency in which you give this thing. It is your creative idea to do with what you want, if you want to show her that you want her as more than a friend do it in sparing gestures as well as innocent things that are something that you would do for your friend in general. You don't need to think about this as her taking from you something that is rightfully hers to steal from you, it just happens that you are a generous person to be this way so you do things that are nice.
Being generous doesn't ever have to stop although it apparently doesn't have to continue as much after you have already established that you are genuinely a generous person, since the first impression of you sticks in someone's head longer than any other impression. You can try to change an impression later on while you might think it is necessary to be forever and faithfully exhaustively supportive of everyone doing this just depletes your emotional energy, which will cause you to get really sad about the things that you provide it is just a side effect of caring too much that ends up happening to good people, so start by being very generous then let people remember it for a long time to come, so that you can invest yourself into other things that you like.
This is the basic premise of game that you will learn by accepting this website ideal, think of this as a step in the right direction for your life and for that of others.